Tuesday, October 7, 2008

On not being a bride

Yes. I live in sin with Boy. No. We're not engaged.

Since some people who do not actually know me may read this, allow me to explain.

I love wedding blogs and all things wedding. I have from the time I was a flower girl through working as a wedding server and coordinator at a hotel and playing MOH for one of my best friends. But the wedding is not the most important part of a relationship.

So I started what will be a wedding blog early.

Boy and I live together now, much to the chagrin of many of my older relatives (see previous examples of traditional Irish Catholicism) and the delight of our friends. When we graduated from college we had just endured the separation of my student teaching in Pittsburgh- a ghastly 3 hours away from Boy and PSU, and neither of us wanted to live at home anymore. Solution: live together.

And we have been doing just that for 2 years now. That puts our grand total at nearly 4 years, which also gives my mom a daily heart attack.

Everyone has their opinions, and of course they are welcome to them. Of course I'd love to plan a big flouffy party in a pretty gown, but the engagement is up to Boy, not me. It's his chance to do something special, and I'm not going to take it from him.

Plus, my wedding style is soooo all over the place. So for now, I observe, create inspiration boards that I will never use for my actual wedding, and will chronicle the progression of life (in sin) with Boy and dog.

3 comments:

DCKate said...

Hahaha... I'm totally with you on the older relatives. There's actually a concerted effort not to let me grandmother know I'm moving in with J. We'll see how well that goes.

DCKate said...

er, I meant "my grandmother"... but "me grandmother" does sound quaintly Irish, and she is Irish Catholic, so...

nittanysam said...

Haha, no worries.

Yeah, we had some snark back from relatives, but now they've gotten more used to it. Our main problem now is people asking us when we're getting married every time they see us.

Welcome!